The experience that I was initially describing was about being in a difficult situation and yet being totally calm and able to respond from the calm space inside myself. Despite this sense of calm the situation itself still brought up some difficult emotions for me but because of this inner calm I was able to observe my reactions rather than reacting from them.
One thing I like about reading books about yoga or in this case meditation is that because I have a regular practice some things resonate with me. Each time I read the yoga sutras I get something else out of it. I think it is more about experiencing things directly than reading about or intellectualising the process. However, sometimes I find it interesting to verbally explain to someone else or myself what I am experiencing. Sometimes the words of another person through written word or conversation can be incredibly helpful.